If I remember correctly, the year 2007 must have been one of the roughest years in the history of my life because I was facing and dealing with Rejection. There was way too much hurt especially because I was rejected by one of my former girlfriends without reason, which I still don’t know to date. Rejection is an interesting thing though.
There is a lot of rejection going around today, some necessary, some unnecessary but no one likes being rejected and being told that they do not measure up or they are not worthy and whatever crazy reason the rejecter may use for rejection. I made one very important discovery; rejection is actually for our good.
Now I know that the word says that everything works out together FOR YOUR GOOD! And I have always been told this by my friends whenever I was facing a hard time, even during this period of rejection, a good friend of mine whom we share a house with now, was telling me this. Now in my head I was thinking how on earth can rejection be for my good?? This beats sense because it hurts to be rejected.
But no rejection can compare or even come close to the rejection that we give our creator… God. We as humans have the audacity to reject God constantly as ugly as we are and as Loving as he is, we are impoverished and we reject the one who desires to enrich. This is hard to understand that we as people could reject God who is so good.
There is a fact in spiritual life that we all have to face at one point and that is rejection. Jesus said… “The servant is not greater than the master “. Therefore, because men persecuted Him so we too will get persecuted. The Apostle Paul in 2 Timothy 4:16 – 17 faced rejection and worse still this was at the end of his life. If Paul faced it, and Jesus at the cross faced it and even cried out “My God, My God why have you forsaken me?” then certainly rejection must be a very important program for God to have in our lives. Why??
Rejection allows us to see God’s faithfulness. When things are going well for us and everyone is happy around us, our friends are by our side and our families are patting us on the back… there is a tendency for us to forget God. But when your boyfriend or girlfriend says “We are through..” your trusted friend turns against you… you will learn to say like Paul… “Even though all men forsook me, the Lord stood with me.”
Jesus promised in Hebrews 13:5… “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.” Compared to our human relationships and the weakness of the human heart, his faithfulness shines brightest.
Have you ever wondered why Jesus didn’t commit himself to any man?? He knew what was in men. He knows what is in us. The same people who shouted “Hosanna! Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord” are the same people whom a few days later would cry, “Crucify Him!” And this is just how fickle the human heart is.
Rejection secondly allows us to be more like Jesus. We are always singing “Make me like you Lord” and if we are going to be like Jesus then Rejection is paramount in our lives. You never really know what true love is – giving for the sake of giving and expecting nothing back, until you have faced and dealt with rejection. Think of it this way… if people always respond to your love, you can subconsciously use your love to get something in return. But when you are rejected, when those close to you want nothing to do with you, then you have the opportunity to love like Jesus did – supernaturally.
True love is only learned and developed in the school of Rejection. There is no other way of learning true love. You must face rejection even as Jesus did in order to learn to love even as he does.
Three things may occur when rejection comes your way… Some people isolate themselves from others because they don’t appreciate or understand you. The problem with this is that it is in direct violation of God’s word, Hebrews 10:25 tells us not to forsake the gathering, but let us encourage one another all the more as we see the day approaching. You might say… “But it hurts to be with others, and that’s fine. The bible says that we are living stones being fit together to build up a spiritual house. .. (1 Peter 2:5), therefore we are bound to chip each other from time to time, but it’s all part of the process.
Secondly, we might complain about rejection saying, “If I must be with people, then I am going to tell them how rotten I am being treated.” But if you choose this option then you are in bad company, for you are in the camp of the accuser of the brethren, Satan himself (Revelation 12:10).
Thirdly… Accept the rejection from people in your life and more importantly avoid rejecting God from your life. If days have gone by since you and walked with the Lord, today is the day you should turn back to Him. He is ready to receive you, Love Him, cling to Him and you will truly find blessing in your soul and on your life.